Celebrating Independence

Next week the U.S. will be celebrating Independence Day!

Independence is such a gift that many have, and others are still seeking. I think we often forget how fortunate we are to live in a country where you’re free to do what you want, be who you want to be, and love whomever you want.

As a person with a disability, I strive to keep my independence, but to also advocate for all because it not only helps me, but also to make life great for all.

When I think about what independence means to me it may differ from what it may mean to you. Anything I can do myself, no matter how big or small, is a win in my book.

My journey to gain independence started when I was young. As you have probably read in previous posts, I’m the youngest out of the six Super Coopers. Where their independence came naturally, I often felt like I had to fight for mine. When you have a disability, I feel like parents are protecting you from harm. You may say, all parents protect their children from harm, but if you have a disability, the overprotection factor is heightened.

Ever heard the phrase “helicopter parents”? They do exist, especially in the disability community.

The journey to independence starts young. Just like when a “typical” baby is motived to crawl, hold their bottle, play etc. so should a baby with a disability. Even if a baby can’t perform the day-to-day function in the “typical” way, teach them anyway. It’s during this stage of life they’re being taught.

Plus, once taught, people with disabilities are very good at adapting things according to their own situation.

Independence at a young age may be tricky to teach due to challenges but let me encourage parents to think out of the box, as it will grow with the child as he or she grows up. By doing this, you will soon see independence and advocacy join forces to blossom your child into their own strong person.

At age 50, I don’t take my independence for granted because I know many in my community who are still fighting for theirs. Combing my hair, ordering a pizza, and even being able to type this post is why Independence Day is special to me.

I’ve also learned, asking for assistance, doesn’t devalue my independence because I was still able to make what I wanted or needed happen.

I’m so grateful for my independence! My life is filled because of it and for that, I’m thankful! With this, let the fireworks begin as I prepare to celebrate Independence Day.