As we’re well into the fall season and leaves on the trees have changed, I can’t help but to think of my friend, J. J had autism and we worked together at Goodwill Easterseals Miami Valley. I was asked if he could assist me in doing some of my work duties twice a week about seven years ago, and of course, I was very happy to help out!
One thing you must know about J, he was extremely smart, especially when it came to computers. J also had some different ways about himself. One of them being, he was very loud at times, which sometimes resulted in giving me a headache. But that was ok, he was my friend. I’m sure I gave him a headache too sometimes with all my girly ways.
After working with J for a while, I began to learn his likes and dislikes. He didn’t like when I wore my hair in ponytail because he told me. Yes, my friend J was very blunt. We had many conversations on how being blunt could hurt someone’s feelings or could get you in trouble. J took heed to my friendly advice, yet he still wanted me to know when he didn’t like something. J and I then made a pack, he could whisper in my ear, so no one could hear!
Later on, I learned J and I had something in common, the love of trees. When he got agitated, I would tell him, “Let’s go take a tree break”. J loved looking at the trees, they helped keep him calm and chilled. He expressed his love of how tall they were and how beautiful it was when there leaves blew in the wind. In return, I expressed that I loved trees because no matter the climate, it still manage to stand strong.
More people need to be like trees. Trees are rooted in the ground to stand through all the junk life throws its way. Trees are very useful and have multiple uses; people can climb, play, use its branches to start a fire, use as a resting place, for shade, and they even give off oxygen for the earth. They can also bear fruit to feed whoever is in need of its harvest.
Life is a roller-coaster; change is definitely going to occur. You need to be ready and planted like a strong tree so you won’t blow over. It’s not good to always worry about every little thing because life’s events have already been determined by a higher power and the outcome has been set.
My friend J, moved to another state seven years ago but I wrote this post as a tribute to him. Whenever I see a tree especially with its leaves blowing, I think of him and smile. As you grow, remember to be like a tree. There are many types in the world to choose from and they are strong and serve the very important purpose of making the world a better place. Pick one you would like to be and stand tall!