When you find “the one” you’ll know it. No matter what anyone says, when you find that person that makes your heart flutter as if you have butterflies, that’s your one.
It’s sad when others think just because you have a disability you’re incapable of being in a loving relationship. Not only do we have to put up with the whole loving thing, there are other stigmas such as helpless, childlike, uneducated and unattractiveness the world often associates with those who have disabilities. But, the issues that create barriers about people with disabilities being in relationships, is taking it a bit too far.
I’m happy to say, Kris and Paul DeForge of New York broke the barrier by being one of the first couples with Down syndrome to get married.
The couple who were married for more than twenty years had what most long for, endless love. According to Kris’s sister Susan, many people had a problem when learning the couple wanted to marry. They were thinking why do two people with disabilities want to get married? Surely they couldn’t know anything about love. As a result of negative pushback, Kris and Paul had to take marriage and counseling classes to prove they were cognitive enough to marry. Thankfully, they passed the classes and were granted the opportunity to become husband and wife.
Unfortunately, Paul passed away not too long ago but at least the national news caught wind of his and Kris’s love story and shared it for the world to see. Hopefully, their story will prove that people with disabilities have the capabilities to do all things, including being in love. No one should be able to tell you, you cannot.
This story makes me happy because I have several friends with disabilities who are planning weddings. Although one couple had to fight hard to find a way around the marriage penalty, they did. So I must give shout out to two beautiful couples, Sherri & Bill and Diana & TJ on their upcoming nuptials.
Love is wonderful thing. It’s my hope all will find their one. When you see people with disabilities in love, quit passing judgement and let them be. Everyone needs love including us.